Monthly Archives: April 2012

How Getting Lost Got Me A Date

The first time I met George was by accident.  I was intrigued but unprepared.

The second time was intentional. I was curious and studied.

Most of the time I despise taking interstate highways. Sure, you nearly always can drive faster and keep moving on them. There are few distractions, not much life, not much color, no shops, no people. Just the mesmerizing hum of the tires on the asphalt and the center line whizzing by. As the cruise control keeps a steady pace my feet often wonder what to do while my hands continually push the button looking for a radio station to keep us all awake.

Give me stop signs, and pedestrians, storefronts and street vendors – give me “life” in the slow lane.

That’s how I met George. On one of my “life” journeys when I avoided Interstate 69 and set out to make my way home from the airport. I live on the north side of the city. The airport lives on the south. In the year I’d lived here, I’d not yet explored much of what lay in between the two destinations.

With no Google Maps, iPhone, or GPS, it was up to my own sense of direction to figure out the unknown streets. Unfortunately, my love for “life” outpaces my gift of a sense of direction. Fortunately, I’m a fairly brave, if not sometimes foolish, soul who believes it all works out. If you just keep moving, pretty soon you figure it out. And often, that’s when you meet the most interesting people and see the most fascinating sites.

On that day, I first met George. Today I met him again on one of my 52 Dates with Myself. But that’s tomorrow’s story.

Ponder & Chat: What’s one of your good stories about getting lost? Who did you meet as a result? What unexpected place did you see because you took a wrong turn? Please share it with us in the comments section below.

Advertisements
Categories: "Cheap" Dates, Date Anticipation, Pure Fun, Reflections, Uncategorized | Tags: , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Surprise Date Coming Up

I’m going “throwing.” That’s right, “throwing.”

Don’t want to tell my neighbor boy, however. Just the other day his baseball rolled across the street toward my driveway. I thought I’d be nice and help him out, so I ran over, picked it up, and proceeded to throw it to him.

Okay! Yes, I’m being generous with the word “throw.”

He’s still quite young, though. I tell myself it’s possible he just saw my “throw” a bit like his own.

Don’t think his handsome Daddy thought that. He looked like he couldn’t believe I was going to try to throw him a ball overhand. I could tell, too, that he didn’t expect me to make it across the street.

Nevertheless, He smiled broadly – probably his way of stifling a belly laugh. He may have just been protecting his son, but he lunged sideways as if he meant it when I hurled the ball low and to his right. He even pretended not to mind when he had to go into the woods to retrieve it. Taking advantage of a teachable moment, he told his son to say, “Thank you.”

“Seriously,” I thought. No wonder kids learn so quickly not to trust adults. Embarrassed, I tried soothing my bruised ego by reminding myself that he’s a fireman, a natural rescuer.

So, I suppose a “throwing” date could prove quite interesting. As the anticipation builds, I’m kinda wishing I could take a handsome fireman with me just in case there arises a need for a rescuer in this upcoming date with myself . Maybe that can be next year’s project.

Ponder & Chat: What’s your best “throwing” story?

Categories: Date Anticipation, Date Ideas, Pure Fun, Uncategorized | Tags: , , , , | Leave a comment

Just Me, Myself, and Joe

I couldn’t believe I was about to miss my date for the night! I’d kept “Joe” waiting all day. He was flexible and didn’t mind that I’d not been able to set a definite time. His schedule was open until 9 p.m.

But where did the afternoon and the evening go? How did 1:30 turn into 8:15?

Jumping in my car, I quickly calculated that if I hit all the lights just right, I could maybe get 30 minutes with him. Those 30 minutes would be wonderful. I’d take them and enjoy every moment.

Like me, “Joe” loves good food. Though he’s a year younger than me, he seems so much wiser in the “ways of the world.”

Like me, “Joe” loves variety. Though his house is not that big, he has “mementoes” from many lands.

Like me, “Joe” likes good wine. Though he might choose something expensive, his “signature” bottles are, well, cheap.

Like me, “Joe” loves to have fun. Though he’s quite serious about business, he always looks like he’s going to a luau.

Like me, “Joe” loves communication. Though he’s not one for sitting down too long, he’ll “ring my bell” when something needs said.

Like me, “Joe” can be full of surprises. Though he’s often sure and steady, he’s always got something new and different for me to try.

Ah, “Joe,” forgive me for being late and thanks for unlocking the door when it was time for me to leave at 9:30.

Can’t wait to do it again soon!!!

Categories: "Cheap" Dates, Date Ideas, Date Night, Pure Fun, Uncategorized | Tags: , , , , , , | Leave a comment

The Challenge of Surprise in Dating Myself

I suppose it just makes sense that one of the challenges of 52 Dates with Myself is figuring out how to incorporate the element of surprise.

Those of you who despise being caught unawares are no doubt cheering this dilemma. While my surprise-embracing allies empathize with the difficulty of delivering the unexpected.

So how does a gal plan a surprise date for herself?

Ponder & Chat: What ideas and thoughts come to mind about this challenge?  Come on, surprise me!

Categories: Challenges, Date Ideas, Planning, Reflections, Uncategorized | Tags: , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Outside My Own Ordinary

Recently, a friend said to me, “I always enjoy going to theater or concert events when you ask me, but I don’t ordinarily plan to do it myself.”

This got me asking myself what I might enjoy doing that I wouldn’t naturally think to do?

No doubt my natural preferences and my history of experiences inform, as well as limit, my creativity in planning my 52 Dates with Myself. I don’t naturally think to plan a date for a spectator-sporting event. I’d like to go dancing, but my lack of experience makes it a bit intimidating and has prevented it from making it to my calendar so far.

I’m thinking it’s time to move beyond myself here, to muster up my courage and create some new experiences. As Yul Brynner once said in the movie, The Ten Commandments, “So let it be written; so let it be done!”

Ponder & Chat: How do your natural preferences and experience history impact your recreation choices? How about your relationships?

Categories: Challenges, Commitment, Reflections, Uncategorized | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Laughter at Taxpayers’ Expense & Other “free” Things

“The troupe has become a favorite on the Washington social circuit.  Its political satire brings chuckles…rave reviews…guffaws…and bipartisan grins all around.  The satire hits the mark.”

The Wall Street Journal

What’s better than laughing till your sides hurt? Getting in free to a great show that gives you the chance for that laughter! That’s the gift I found for last week’s date in my journey of 52 Dates with Myself. IPFW’s Omnibus Lecture Series celebrated its 100th Lecture since 1995 with free tickets to a hysterical performance by The Capitol Steps

Their musical political satire had the 1,600 members of the crowd in a constant uproarious state. Saturday Night Live on political steroids. Check out some samples of the fun here at their website.

Just as exciting and fun as the show was discovering the wealth of great events IPFW brings me. Over 1,500 free events annually. There’s lectures, comedians, cookouts, theater, visual arts, concerts. Many of them free, many of them very affordable. Looking forward to more date nights to come.

Ponder & Chat: What great free or very affordable date opportunities have you found your local colleges and universities provide?

Categories: "Cheap" Dates, Date Ideas, Date Night, Pure Fun | Tags: , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

“Thank You” H.I. Salon & Spa and Brigette

For about a year now, my inbox has been flooded with daily offers from coupon companies like Groupon, Living Social, and Moolala. Usually deals from local establishments, they can sometimes be a bit tricky if you’ve never done business with the company before.

Like the two-hour housecleaning I purchased for $35. That was a great buy! Except for the fact that they called me the morning I was expecting them, which just happened to be the same evening that I was expecting to entertain my Mom for the weekend.

Now, every woman alive knows you always clean your house before your Mother comes! But if you’re working that day and the cleaning company suddenly calls to say they aren’t coming – well, your Mother feels like a failure, you feel like a failure, the dust on the bookshelf feels like a failure….

It’s just a dirty shame!

Groupon deals can often overwhelm the company who offers them. They get lots of buyers but aren’t prepared to handle all the business the offer brings. The discounted price can make delivery tricky, too. Ah, but I digress. For this post is really about my experience this past Saturday with a massage and facial at Hair International Salon and Spa. A purchase I bought from Groupon.

Hair International Salon and Spa markets itself as H.I. Salon and Spa. (I have a friend, Elizabeth, who is a communication coach. She hates acronyms for names like this, says they hinder understanding. She probably has a good point here. She often does. In honor of her, I’m going to refer to H.I. as Hair International throughout the rest of the post.)

Hair International is housed in what seems to be a large white house turned into multiple businesses. It’s not easily spotted, though once you know it’s there, you can’t help but notice the building against the stark fields surrounding it. A lone figure, seeming like a holdout to the expansion preparations for new construction going on all around it. The result of a close proximity to the new Parkview Regional Medical Center.

Coming from the West side of town, it’s tricky making your way to the business. The newly widened road sports a concrete barrier preventing a left hand turn into the driveway. I maneuvered into the westbound lane back toward the white house and made my way to the door. Inside, I was immediately greeted by owner Jessica McKean and esthetician Brigette Mckinnon, with whom I had my appointment.

Hair International's Brigette McKinnon (Licensed Esthetician) and me just before my massage and facial

Representing its name, Hair International‘s decor felt more salon than spa. Nevertheless, I was excited to begin.

The next hour was truly wonderful as Brigette worked her massage and facial magic. I wanted the clock to stop and the kneading, probing, warm towels and soothing music to continue forever. I’ve had several massages and paid much more for some, but this was one of the best. In 30 minutes, the knots in my shoulders were softened and in 30 minutes more, my face felt nourished and replenished.

Hair International wasn’t anything fancy. Without Groupon, I might never have ventured to it. I’m glad I did.

Simple, understated, and delivering great service! Can’t ask for more than that for one of 52 Dates with Myself.

Categories: Date Ideas, Relaxing Dates, Uncategorized | Tags: , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

M.A.S.S.A.G.E.

Much

Anticipation

Sweet

Sensations

Ah!

Getting

Excited

Categories: Date Anticipation, Uncategorized | Tags: , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Silence: the absence of noise or sound, stillness

Be still, and know that I am God.

A cell phone rings forth a computer-generated country tune.

Another buzzes and vibrates from a pocket or purse.

The air conditioner blower hums somewhere to my right.

Someone coughs and wipes his nose.

Another rustles her candy wrapper.

Be still…

But what is silence?

What is stillness?

Would it frighten me were I truly to experience it?

Or would I finally have a fuller glimpse of God?

Would my mind take over weaving thoughts and ideas,

Blaring forth the troubles of my heart or perhaps

The singing in my soul?

Know that I am God…

I think I long for that silence.

I think I desire to be still.

I know I long to know You.

From a silent place open to hearing, and

A stillness receptive to deeper listening.

Even in the midst of the airplane flying overhead and

The neighbor’s lawn mower just starting.

My heart can be still, and I can know.

Categories: Reflections, Uncategorized | Tags: , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Anticipating the Date: It’s Thursday, But Saturday’s Coming!

Closing my eyes, I’m imagining it’s Saturday. “Pampering Pam Day” is well under way.

The dimly lit massage room sets the stage for the coddling that is defining this special day – just one of my 52 Dates with Myself.  My every muscle is relaxed, indulged in gentle kneading and soothing fragrance.

With all tension gone, I next luxuriate in having my hair washed and styled, and then savor the foot bath that begins the pedicure.

Lavish self-care.

The ringing phone disturbs the image. Muscles tense.

It’s only Thursday, but Saturday’s coming!

Ponder & Chat: What are you looking forward to this weekend? How are you going to pamper yourself?

Categories: Date Anticipation, Date Ideas | Tags: , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Blog at WordPress.com.

%d bloggers like this: