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A Lesson in Renewal – A Dry Spell

Stores are dangerous places for me this time of year! They flaunt vegetable plants, herbs, flowers, and gorgeous pots in all colors knowing that I am addicted! I’m weak. Really, I think I may be helpless. Ok, I know I’m not helpless, but I am vulnerable. To the point that I could probably use a good-looking secret service type protector (non-Columbia model, of course).

Vulnerability struck a couple of weeks ago, and even though I knew I was heading out for a nine-day trip, I bought a beautiful peat pot of basil. It contained four thriving plants. They all proudly stood on the shelf and called my name. As they rode around the store in the shopping cart with me, I swear I heard them mocking the other plants. They even chided me for putting them in a grey plastic bag for the ride home in the car.

Soon, I had them temporarily settled on the counter to await their garden fate. Then, as fate would have it, there they would remain for nine long days. Alone, in the dark, lifeless room, straining for sun that would also steal their last remaining drops of moisture.

Upon my return, I gasped at their bedraggled and lifeless state. They didn’t respond at all to my cooing and self-flagellation. They were spent. All pride gone. Lifeless.

Regardless, I bathed them gently with tap water and soaked their peat base to the point of saturation.

I wasn’t sure, but thought I heard a bit of complaining, “Now, you come?”

Guiltily, I left them and proceeded to post-trip activities, unpacking, laundry, sorting nine days of mail. Every once in a while, I’d look in on the basil and drop an encouraging and gentle word.

“You can do it. I know it’s hard, but dig deep from your roots. You have strength you’re not aware of for this journey.”

Reaching for the sun once again! My basil plant that went through a “dry spell.”

Sure enough, within 24 hours, life had returned. No, they are not to their former glory. They have a bit of a bend now. But there are helps for that sort of thing. Besides, they’ve not even met their new home yet – a bright pot with rich, dark soil and a prime patio location.

Perhaps best of all, they have a new appreciation for their strength and ability to return even from a bit of a dry spell. A lesson even a plant junkie can appreciate.

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In the Garden

“It is good to be alone in a garden at dawn or dark so that all its shy presences may haunt you and possess you in a reverie of suspended thought.”  ~James Douglas, Down Shoe Lane

Lovely date this morning just enjoying the fruits of yesterday’s labor in the garden and pondering the moments of today yet to come.

A dove visiting with me in my garden this morning

There are days of back-breaking labor when I despise and curse the retired woman whose love of nature spawned these many beds. But this morning as the dove coos, the woodpecker taps, and the yellow finches flit and dance among the sage and salvia, I perch in the midst of gentle morning breezes breathing in the aroma of lavender, mint, and roses and bless her.

A butterfly perches herself on a knot hole near pink clematis

A butterfly lands nearby just beneath a knot hole in the fence post. I want to snap a photo of her lovely wings, but she closes them as if to tell me her morning thoughts are hers alone. Ah, the flower garden paparazzi never relents and snaps away regardless.

Not without cost, however, for as the camera focuses, I see where yesterday’s gardener missed culling some dead branches from the pink clematis. Shoot!

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Breaking Up!

That’s it!

I’ve had it!

It’s over!

I’m sick and tired of your neglect, your childish ways, your uncaring antics, your selfish choices!

We’re through!

 No, your “I’m sorry” is not going to do it this time.

I don’t know what I ever saw in you in the first place!

 Just go!

 Have a nice life!

 And don’t let that April Fool’s door hit you on your way out!

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One-dollar Roses, Sushi, $2 Buck Chuck, & Charlie Rose

Crazy busy week of travel and major work projects! Translated this means there’s not been much time for dating. Yet, there it is looming before me – the commitment to do something special with myself. 52 Dates with Myself! Good grief! It’s already Wednesday night and the rest of the calendar this week is full.

Hey, do I like this girl, or what? Well, of course, I do. Do I want her to like me? Absolutely.

Alright then, stick with your commitment and do something nice for and with me.

But the cupboard is bare. No milk, no bread, no Greek yogurt! I need to stop off at Kroger’s new Marketplace on the drive home.

Yes, a girl does have to eat even if she has to run through the rain to buy groceries.

What? What’s this? Seriously? A dozen red roses for $1.00!!!

Sure, I recognize they are Valentine cast-off’s never destined to fulfill their intended $30.00 romancing role. Never mind that. Like finding a gem at a yard sale, I eagerly snatch them up, then gently put them in the top of my cart. Perusing the rest of the store, the smug and satisfied smile remains with me. One last stop for  sushi from the deli. A special treat for dinner. Then it’s back out in the rain for the drive home.

Goodness, it’s nearly 7 p.m. Stack the pantry  and refrigerate the perishables. Suddenly, I see it. There on the second shelf, chilled and ready!

There’s a date about to happen. Me and my $1 roses, salmon sushi and a goblet of  $2 buck Chuck – Trader Joe’s famously thrifty Chardonnay. Shoes off, light a candle, settle into my favorite lounge chair, and find Charlie Rose on the tube. Ah, what a great date night!

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First of 52 Dates with Myself – Part II: Emma

“Well Emma, you might become better acquainted with yourself for there will be plenty of time for that.”  ~ Mr. Knightly

While Mr. Knightly chided Emma with the above advice, I’m embracing it as a personal affirmation for the coming year of 52 Dates with Myself.

My first date took me to a presentation Jane Austen’s EmmaThe endearing story was presented by all for One productions, inc., a not-for-profit arts organization whose home theater is the Auditorium of the Allen County Public Library. The 230 seat venue provides an intimate setting for their annual series.

Emma is both witty and charming and provided me with a number of reflective moments. Set in a small town in Regency England, it tells the story of a privileged young woman. Many think highly of Emma, yet there opinions are often exceeded by Emma’s own opinion of herself and her ideas and insights into their lives.  As her friend, Mr. Knightly claims, her main fault is that “she feels qualified to direct others’ lives.

Captured by her charms, yet not deceived by her folly, only Mr. Knightly, a bachelor and neighbor of Emma’s, has the strength of character and loving concern to confront her misguided opinion of herself. Knightly’s honest challenging of Emma’s oft-foolish behavior or guidance to others helps her to recognize the error of her ways. Not wasting the lesson, Emma soon finds her own strength of character and develops a true sense of grace and wisdom.

My reflections from Emma, and my first of 52 Dates with Myself:

  • Embrace getting to know myself, taking advantage of every opportunity, whether sought or brought, to do so.
  • Find and cherish a friend who will speak truth to me out of a heart of loving kindness.
  • Direct my own life.  Welcome personal change and growth.
  • Trust that others can direct their own lives, just as I can direct mine.

What’s one of your favorite plays? What life insights have you taken away from it or another play or movie?

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Unexpected First Date Jitters

Spontaneity ruled as I rushed to dress and get downtown in time for the first of my 52 Dates with Myself. Less than two hours earlier I’d been perusing the internet in pursuit of planning a great event for myself. Now here I was rushing around, dumping my plans for the day, and actually on my first date.

Actually, this wasn’t quite what I had imagined it to be. I was excited to be on my way to a special activity. Yet, the spontaneity of it was also setting a bit of an undertone I’d not expected. First, there was the rushing itself. Then, there was the dumping of the other plans I’d had for the day. A doubt lingered – was I romancing myself or was I procrastinating? Would I be able to set aside these thoughts and enjoy the time with me?

 

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Spontaneity

Just came across what I think is a great 1st Valentines date for my 52 Dates with Myself adventure. Except, it starts in 90 minutes – not on Valentine’s Day and not on my originally planned schedule for the day. Never mind that.

With decisive abandonment, I’m scurrying to make myself presentable for a public forum. With every turn of the curling iron, my heart is getting lighter and more excited. Oh, Scarlet, I’m with you – we’ll worry about all that other stuff tomorrow….

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